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Date: 2003-10-09 13:07
Subject: Lost in Perspective....
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Music:The drumming of the Raindrops on the window outside
One of the posters on the forum I frequent, www.pvpforums.com, had his father pass away suddenly last night. After sending my condolences, I did what most people probably do and picked up the phone and called my dad to tell him that I love him. He is caught between expectations. What me and my sister expect him to do, and what the rest of his family expect him to do. I feel for him as that is always hard.
I know he believes in his heart that his marriage was valid and that we are the product of a valid marriage, so his truth or lies in his attempt to get an annulment is between him and the church. Goodness knows that I've done religious things I didn't mean myself just to meet the expectations of my family. I try to live my life without lettting religious or political differences come between myself and people I care about, but I haven't done well lately on that account about Dad's situation. So I told him that whatever the outcome, I love him and would be there when he got remarried, whether inside the church or out. I might not participate in the ceremony, but I'll at least be there. Life is too short to shut people you love out of your life.
On that note he also better be there no matter what.. even if I decide to get married beneath an idol of Jo-bu and shower in rum and toke on a cigar while saying my vows.

I think it's funny that my dad realizes how deep in karmic dept he is and is trying to help out by volunteering to balance out the scales a bit.
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User: brandonq
Date: 2003-10-09 12:24 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Heh, Jo-Bu! *gives the little guy some rum* I'm not sure how well the toking-cigar bit will go over with any potential wife, however:P
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User: denimdoll
Date: 2003-10-09 12:45 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Life is too short to shut people you love out of your life.

That is so very true. You never know how long they'll be in your life, so be sure to tell them how you feel. Once they're gone, you'll miss them more than you realize.
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User: austinamber
Date: 2003-10-09 13:32 (UTC)
Subject: Expectations
No offense, but I think Father's "family" excuses are bunk. Considering that two of father's siblings have been divorced multiple times, I doubt that he is getting any pressure from his family. Neither Christy nor Kelly got annulments, and they both still participate in the Church and take communion.

I love the man, too, but I'm tired of him trying to force "his own little world" on the me. I like to live in reality.

It was nice of you to call and let him know you love him, though. We should all try to call our family more and let them know that we love them and think about them.

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User: mcclintock
Date: 2003-10-09 14:38 (UTC)
Subject: Re: Expectations
Hehe. You know it's funny back when he used to treat mom poorly you used to defend him thinking he would change, and I would get mad at him because they wouldn't leave each other and be happy. Now he's divorced I get to defend him and you get to be mad at him all the time. You're quite right, all his excuses and rationalizations are pretty flimsy and crappy, but the matter is that its a religious thing I'm mad about and that's not the kind of person I want to be. I can be the better man in this situation, because religion isn't that important to me.

Plus, with the level of common sense he has he could do something stupid and kill himself accidently any day now. He's a walking Darwin award waiting to happen.

I love you sis.
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